My mom only shook her head when I told her the name we'd chosen. I think she was hoping for a namesake, but this child simply wasn't a Kathleen. I'm certain Mom came to appreciate that as Butterfly grew up. In fact, I'm pretty sure it was firmly cemented by the time Butterfly was 6 and we were all standing on the deck enjoying a lovely summer day. Mom pointed to a couple of bees on some flowers, turned to Bud, as her nick-name became, and said, "Look Bud, the bees are gathering honey."
Butterfly gave her a disdainful look. "Oh Nanna, the bees don't gather honey. They gather nectar and take it back to their nests to make honey."
Mom's eyes widened as she turned a bemused expression on me and said, "there's nothing quite like being corrected by a 6-year-old."
Butterfly's name turned out to be well-suited to a kid who flitted from one thing to another, to another, never landing anywhere for very long. She was diagnosed early on with ADHD, and later the psychologist who tested her told me to look up Asperger's Syndrome on the internet, and proceed accordingly, and she confirmed two learning difficulties. Bud also had multiple food intolerances and allergies.
Yes, raising and educating Butterfly was a challenge. It's also been an amazing and enlightening journey. What follows is Butterfly's story.